Have you ever been in traffic and you look at the lane next to you and see that its moving faster than yours? Then you change lanes so you can get ahead, but as soon as you switch, the lane you were just in starts to move faster. And so you switch back and then the traffic stops again. Urrgghh!!
This is what it’s like to measure your life with others. You look around, see people with a “better” job or a “better” lifestyle – cuter clothes, longer hair, flashier things- and you begin to feel like you’re stuck in the wrong lane.
When you compare yourself with others, you’re sending a “I’m not good enough” message to yourself that devalues who you are and what you’re working on. It discredits the level of trust you have with yourself and toils with your self-esteem. That’s why I like to remind myself “compare and despair”- when I compare myself to others, because I don’t feel like I’m where I want to be in life, I begin to despair- feeling hopeless and confused. It’s like I’m the driver that switches lanes every 2 seconds trying to get ahead and each lane is worse off than the last.
But guess what?? Your lane is exactly where you’re supposed to be. And until you start to make the best of it, you will never be satisfied and exhaust yourself, wasting time and gas.
So how can you embrace your lane – your unique self and the experience that makes you who you are? Celebrate it! Be grateful for what you have and if you don’t like something, CHANGE IT! But only on your own terms, because YOU want to and not as a result of what he or she has.
When you’re true to yourself and honor your lane, you can move much faster, smoother and with greater happiness! and THAT’S what a MORE life is about.
What’s your experience? SHARE! And be a light for someone else’s shadow.